Key Strategies to Remember

ADHD is brain-based, not willful misbehavior

Remind yourself (and others) that your child’s challenges are part of a neurodevelopmental disorder. Empathy first, always.

Stay calm and consistent

Your steady, friendly response can prevent escalation. Over time, consistency builds trust and security.

Use routines and visuals

Structured days and visual cues (charts, checklists) help ADHD kids know what’s expected and what’s next

Break tasks into chunks

Whether it’s homework, chores, or getting ready, small steps feel doable and give quick wins (which motivates them to continue).

Reward progress often

Praise, tokens, or privileges for even small achievements keep kids motivated. Aim for 5 praises for every 1 correction.

Model and teach coping skills

Demonstrate taking deep breaths, using positive self-talk (“I can do this”), or taking a break when frustrated. Kids learn from what we do.

Pick your battles

Not every issue needs a lecture. Safety and respect are non-negotiable, but if your child’s clothes are mismatched or they’re a bit noisy, it’s okay. Save your energy for what really matters.

Educate others

Work with teachers, family, and even your child’s friends (as appropriate) so they understand ADHD too. A supportive community makes a huge difference.

Helpful Tips

Self-Care for Parents:

Parenting a child with ADHD can be exhausting. Take care of yourself with breaks, support groups, or counseling when needed. A calmer, recharged parent is a more effective parent (trust me!).

Use Timers & Technology:

Timers aren’t just for the classroom. Use them at home to signal “time to clean up” or “five more minutes of screen time.” Older kids can use smartphone apps for reminders or time management games.

Fidgets and Sensory Tools:

Many kids focus better when their hands are busy. Don’t shy away from fidget tools (stress balls, putty, chewing gum) if they help your child stay seated and attentive. Teach them what’s acceptable (silent fidgets, for example).

Stay Positive and Patient:

Progress may be slow and that’s okay. There will be steps backward—bad days or even bad weeks. But notice the improvements, no matter how small. Celebrate efforts, not just results.

Advocate:

You know your child best. If they need classroom accommodations or a different approach, speak up. You are your child’s voice until they can advocate for themselves. Trust your instincts and don’t be afraid to seek help from professionals.

External Resources

CHADD (Children and Adults with ADHD): The national CHADD organization offers parent training, fact sheets, and a hotline for ADHD questions. Their National Resource Center on ADHD is a goldmine.

CDC – About ADHD: The CDC provides a clear overview of ADHD symptoms, diagnosis, and treatment. They also share data (did you know an estimated 7 million U.S. children have been diagnosed with ADHD?).

ADDitude Magazine: A family-friendly magazine and website with practical articles (many written by parents or ADHD experts). For example, see “What Is Executive Function? 7 Deficits Tied to ADHD” for insight into cognitive skills, or “Calm Parenting: Stop Meltdowns Before They Start”.

Understood.org: A nonprofit site dedicated to learning and attention issues. They have parent-to-parent articles and short videos on topics like routines, behavior management, and school supports.

Child Mind Institute: Their Parents’ Guide to ADHD in Children breaks down symptoms and treatments in easy language, helping you make informed decisions.

KidsHealth – Parenting ADHD: Practical tips on managing common ADHD behaviors (like interrupting or impulsivity) in everyday scenarios, from the Nemours Foundation’s KidsHealth.

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